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Public Solitude

This past summer, I embraced a new chapter in my life—one where I started doing things by myself. It wasn’t an entirely new concept for me, but it was one I had long resisted. The first time I attended a concert alone, nearly a decade ago, I left early. Embarrassment, self-consciousness, and that nagging feeling of standing out made it hard to enjoy the moment.

Fast forward to this summer, when I decided to attend Summerslam weekend solo. Let me tell you, it was nothing short of transformative. I was free to buy what I wanted, arrive when I wanted, and immerse myself in the experience without the weight of worrying about someone else’s preferences or schedule. I had the time of my life. It was a joy that felt pure and unfiltered—something I hadn’t fully allowed myself to feel in group settings.

Don’t get me wrong: not every companion can drag down the mood. But the freedom of focusing solely on myself felt empowering. I’ve since embraced this mindset in other areas of my life. Concerts? I’m back to enjoying them, but this time solo. Road trips? More liberating than ever. Shopping and dining? Honestly, they feel like mini-adventures now.

What’s changed is my perspective. I’m at a point in life where I’ve learned to prioritize what benefits me positively. If an experience doesn’t add to my happiness, I don’t want any part of it. That doesn’t mean I’m closing myself off from others—I’m just carving out this time to enjoy life on my own terms.

Public solitude, as I like to call it, has become my sanctuary. It’s not about shutting others out but about tuning into myself. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the most fulfilling experiences come when you allow yourself to fully embrace your own company.

So, if you’ve been hesitant to try something alone, let this be your sign. Whether it’s a solo concert, a road trip, or just grabbing lunch by yourself, give it a shot. You might just find that the company you’ve been craving was your own all along.

Here’s to living unapologetically and enjoying the journey—alone, and loving every second of it.

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